Come to your senses
Our senses play a key role in how we look at and process messages from the world around us. Taste, touch, sight, sound and smell also play a key role in our enjoyment of sex.
Did you know that most of us rely on one particular sense much more than the others?
If we can identify whether we’re more motivated by touch than sight, or taste than sound, that knowledge can have a huge impact on our sex lives. It can also be a potent weapon to help you better understand and relate to your lover.
Here’s a test to help you figure out your sensory preference. Try to recall the following, and pay attention to how easy or difficult it is to conjure them up.
Touch: Rolling around naked on a fur rug. Diving into a cool pool on a hot day. Running your hands along smooth, soft, warm skin. Pulling on a cold wetsuit.
Taste: Biting into a still-warm chocolate croissant. Swallowing a mouthful of ocean. Biting a lemon. Sipping a glass of crisp white wine.
Sound: Hearing birds singing and the wind in the trees. Listening to waves crashing. Hearing your lover talk dirty to you. A car alarm outside your front door.
Smell: The aromas in your favourite café. The scent of a bunch of lilies. Wood smoke on a crisp autumn afternoon. Burning rubber from a screeching tyre.
Sight: The view from Sydney Harbour Bridge. Your favourite movie star naked on your bed. The night sky lit up by stars. The inside of the last bar you visited.
Whichever category came most easily to mind or triggered the strongest reaction, you’re primarily motivated by.
There may also be a category that came a close second — and that’s your secondary sense preference.
Once you’re more aware of what most triggers your sensual reactions, you can start asking for more of what you want, or doing the things that satisfy you more fully.
Now try this exercise on a friend or lover. Once you’ve figured out their main turn-ons, you can connect with them on a whole new level.
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