THE SSO A-Z guide to queer Sydney
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Tits As any astute observer knows, tits enjoy hallowed status among queers -“ and with good reason. Whether as voluptuous political statement or bouncy source of pleasure, a good pair has fans just about anywhere in this delightfully diverse community of ours.
When the Dykes on Bikes warm up the Mardi Gras parade crowds each year, many of them do so bare-chested -“ an always inspiring act of empowerment.
Less political breast devotees are sure to find double happiness at just about any dance party on the scene, where getting one’s tits out remains de rigueur for more outgoing girls.
Not that boys are excluded from all things titty. Guys also love showing off their set, although in our looks-obsessed party culture this usually means sculptured pecs rather than their more pneumatic relative, man boobs.
Fans of the latter have to look elsewhere for an appealing double header. A good place to start is a gathering of Harbour City Bears, a group that has never concealed its affection for an ample pair.
Tops Once known as the butch or active sexual partner, the penetrative man in gay anal sex is simply known as the top. Tops are men who strictly like to take the driver’s seat during sex. They’re on top and that’s the only way they like it.
For some, it’s the act and motion which turns them on, while for others it’s tied up with all kinds of masculine role-playing -“ a strong, tough and macho man doesn’t take it, he only gives it. Doesn’t he?
There seems to be a growing belief that gay Sydney is a town of bottoms all in search of a decent top. And looks can be deceiving.
We’ve heard men built like rugby players complain that guys always assume they’re a top, when all they wanna do is lie on their back with their legs in the air. Then there’s the case of the really short guy who loves nothing better than topping men bigger than himself.
A quick search through Gaydar.com would suggest most men enjoy the best of both worlds as versatile, with many subscribing to the theory that a ride there earns a ride back.
But a top knows what he likes and he’s happy to stay just where he is, thanks all the same. Now if only there were more of them to go around in Sydney!
